The first movie that I went to see was Walt Disney's Pinocchio. It was in a small theater in downtown Canandaigua, that no longer exists, and I went for a friend's birthday party (shout out to Mark Vitalone). I remember we carried in a garbage bag full of popcorn and it was a wonderful experience with that group of
A lot of first dates are spent at the movies, and while I posit that you can bond at the movies, you don't always do. I remember in high school going with a girl to see the premiere of Arthur. I rode my bike to her house, survived meeting her family and over sized black lab, and we jumped in her car and went to the show.
|The only Arthur.|
I'm not sure I ever bonded as well with my daughter at the movies, as my wife did, but admittedly, they shared the same tasted in movies. When she was 6 or so, we were on vacation and went to see "Harriet the Spy" together, well it was kind of together, Char and Molly actually saw "Harriet the Spy" in one theater and
I went to see Demi Moore in Striptease in another. It was serendipity, when I went to buy my tickets, they both ended at the exact same time. I figured if God had wanted me in theater 3 with Molly and Char, watching a coming of age story of a little girl spy, he wouldn't have put Demi Moore with no clothes on in theater 4 playing against it. I doubt that Molly even remembers this, but she knows now. She repaid me years later when I tried to introduce her to Forrest Gump at home and she sat with her laptop open the entire movie, missing the innuendos and small important points, and at the end declared how badly it sucked. We did not bond then, but I did learn not to introduce her to my favorite movies, when she was committed to multitasking during them. I'm old, but I can learn. I also learned that it's tough to bond with a theater wall separating you. As I said before, Char and Molly have their movie thing, but the boys and I have ours, and that is fine. I'll take Green Lantern over the Notebook every time. Occasionally we all watch a movie together and bond, but it's a rare event in my house.
At the house I grew up in, I don't remember going out to the movies much, but we would lay around the living room watching movies on the TV as a family sprawled out and draped over various pieces of furniture (It resembled more of a
CSI crime scene most nights than a family movie viewing).
|Bud and Lou with the Andrews sisters|
Wow, this is a long one (That's what She said). I suppose I've pontificated enough on whether it's possible to bond while sitting, mostly silently, in a movie theater or in a cozy living room watching a movie. The blog wouldn't be complete without the mention of our favorite family bonding movie, "It's a Wonderful Life". We make time, each Christmas season, to try and watch this as a family and we definitely bond during it. Maybe we connect with the altruistic George Bailey who does for others, but never goes out and pursues his dreams, until he realizes that all along he had them in front of him. Hmmm, kind of sounds like this kid I know who took a girl to Arthur one time....